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How to save my marriage with unsupported in-laws and abusive husband?

Asked by Female, 30, Married

I am married from last 11 years. My husband is 10 years older than me. We have a love marriage his family agreed to our marriage but my family was not ready but still I went against my family and done court marriage later my family also accepts us & love unconditionally. After marriage my in laws are not so supportive I was just 18 + & expected to do all things very nicely but nothing happened like that. I was studying also so I have to face lot of problems but at that time in initial stage he support me. But now the problem is after having 2 kids he also abuse me scold me all the time for everything. Our financial condition was not too good so to help him I started working but my in laws doesn't support and don't take care of my kids so I have to leave the job. Now almost everyday we had a fight on small issues or big issues no matter. He said just get out from my life he don't want me in his life. I can't tell all the details here. But the problem is too much. Please I want consultancy for my husband too. What can I do?

Answer

Sneha

Psychotherapist

Answered over 4 years ago

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand you are frustrated about the state of your relationship and anxious about the future. You must be hurting over all that had been happening between you and your husband. I understand that although financial reasons might one of the contributing factors to all the tension between the two of you there are probably other reasons as well. To understand you and your situation completely could you please tell me more about yourself and your husband as individuals. Could you tell more about what provokes both of you and what kind of conversations lead to an argument? I understand that you don't feel comfortable mentioning all the details here. Although this is safe place to share your details, you could consider a phone session as well. Please message back to continue our discussion. Regards

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