Abuse in no form is acceptable and is a punishable offence by law. It would help for you to immediately reach out to close and trusted persons such as family and/or friends and inform them of your situation. Next, try reaching out for help to the police, NGOs that work for women's safety and helplines for abuse in your place of stay. At all times, ensure your physical safety. If possible, try removing yourself from the environment with your husband. It would help for you to go for individual psychotherapy to help deal with this matter efficiently and effectively. Here are a few...

I see that you do like him and want to live your life with him but it is getting difficult for you to handle his anger. You are only engaged and fear what lies ahead if things do not change for the better. I can understand your concern. It seems like your fiance has difficulty dealing with his anger and anger management would perhaps help him if he is willing to give it a try. Abusive words as an expression of anger is something one picks up from their environment. Such find it difficult to express their anger with the use of abusive words. Helping him release his anger without the use...

Abuse in any form or degree at any age, gender, region, culture or circumstance is not acceptable or justifies in any manner. It is a criminal offence and is punishable by law. It is important to recognise abuse and to act against it rather than believing it to be a norm and deeming yourself to feel helpless. First and foremost, call a helpline right away! Find out services in your state that cater to these issues and do not hesitate to reach out to them. Reach out to someone you know and can trust well. It always helps to have someone support you and be by your side in times of need....

Recognising when you need help and reaching out for the same is the first courageous step to be able to take towards a better self. One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the basic respect not met and enduring an abuse from your partner is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. Regardless of anything, you certainly deserve to follow your own religious...

Thank you for writing in to us. Recognising when you need help and reaching out for the same is the first courageous step to be able to take towards a better self. One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the basic respect not met and enduring an abuse from your partner is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. To begin with, reach out for help- to...

I understand your decision to leave your husband's house. Abuse should not be put up with in any circumstance by anybody for any reason. I'm glad you had the support of your parents in this situation. Abuse in a marriage is a dangerous and painful situation. If you and your husband want to sustain the marriage, some boundaries have to be set. To do this you may need to seek some professional help to facilitate rebuilding a bond with your husband and also to help you deal with the trauma you have been through. In my opinion, you both should have a conversation about what happened and...

Your situation is painful one, abuse from nobody is alright, least of all your husband and his family. Thank you for reaching out and seeking help, it's a serious decision to make and it's commendable that you're reaching for opinions/ advice. First things first, nobody can force you to make a choice about your child. Family members can advice, however, the ultimate decision lies with either both parents. It seems apparent that you're marriage has fallen apart and that your husband doesn't seem inclined to making it work. That coupled with his alcoholic habits, makes it rather difficult...

So from what i gather, I understand that you are facing a difficult time dealing with your husband in your marriage. You seem to be put under a lot of pressure from him with regard to expectations of household work as well as at work. He threatens you to leave your job if you are unable to complete chores at home and even sometimes gets abusive. This has naturally left you frustrated and you wish to seek a way out of it. Firstly, I would like to admire the strength in you to be able to manage this all this while. I am sure it must have been very difficult for you to be put under such...

Hi Writer, first of all, thank you for reaching out to us. I'm terribly sorry to hear that you are dealing with such a difficult situation at this time. It must be very scary for you to have repeatedly faced this situation. From what you have stated, it does sound like the first steps that need to be taken are the legal steps. Therefore, I would highly recommend that you reach out to a lawyer to get this sorted as soon as possible. I understand that your children must be going through a lot and confused at this point as well. They will need a large amount of support and reassurance that...

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. It must be difficult to run a household, your child while doing your project. Do tell me a little more about your relationship and what led to the divorce notice.

Hello Writer, Thank you for seeking help from the Askmile team to deal with the difficulties you encountered in your one year old marriage. Your major issue is that your husband shouts and screams at you when his family members are around. This has happened whenever you visited his family in the home town. When you both are not in the hometown, his behavior is different and he tries to make you feel good. Your dreams about marriage and family life is shattered with his approach to you. His reactions make you feel that you failed to play the role of the ideal wife. He is upset with...

Thank you for writing to us. It takes courage to ask for help. I understand you are going through a difficult time in your marriage. How do you feel towards your wife now and about your future? Please message back to continue discussing. I am here to help. Regards

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. Sounds like you are frustrated and confused at this point as your feelings for your girlfriend seem to very strong. Could you tell me what these actions and words are that upset you?

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand you are frustrated and upset regarding your husband's behavior. Your tolerance of his habits and nature has reduced over the years and you can no longer bear it. There are two ways to go about this. Either carry on the way you have been and accept your husband for the way he is or you consider changes that need to be made by both of you. Both will involve some amount of discomfort and pain. You have to decide what you are up for and what you need for yourself at this point in your life and we will take it forward from there. Could you...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help. I understand you dilema and the hurt caused by your husband's anger. So let's put things in perspective. Your husband loves you, cares for you, sees to your needs and is pretty much what you would want from a good partner. But no amount of love and care can ever condone or justify physical abuse. It is wrong and is a punishable offence. You are in an abusive relationship. If your husband feels really bad about his behaviour then he seriously needs to work on it and make a change and for this he might...

Dear Indu, thank you for writing in. This is a case of classic domestic abuse where the woman doesn't recognize this pattern as abuse and tends to justify it because she focuses only on the good in her husband. Whether frequent or not it is still abuse and she shouldn't have to suffer through it. Helping her recognise this as an abusive cycle which needs to be broken is important. Is your friend willing to help herself? She can consider counseling or approaching us here so we can offer her a sounding board to think things through. Be as supportive as you can and be gentle in your suggestion...

Dear Anjana, thank for writing to us. It takes courage to reach out and ask for help. According to the law for protection against domestic violence, a case for cruelty can be filed. Taunting, demoralizing and putting down the woman with the intention of causing mental torture is considered cruelty by law. But to understand the situation better can you tell me more about why exactly your sister's in-laws and husband treat her this way? Also tell me what you would like to accomplish here. If your sister is being treated so terribly then I wonder what her intentions are.. How is she coping...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand you are frustrated about the state of your relationship and anxious about the future. You must be hurting over all that had been happening between you and your husband. I understand that although financial reasons might one of the contributing factors to all the tension between the two of you there are probably other reasons as well. To understand you and your situation completely could you please tell me more about yourself and your husband as individuals. Could you tell more about what provokes both of you and what kind of...

Dear Writer, I can understand how hurt and alone you must be feeling. This is a frightfully terrible incident to have witnessed. Incest between mother and son is a serious violation on the mother's part to have encouraged her son's sexual curiosity in an perverse manner. It is a situation that you don't have control over if your husband doesn't admit to what has been happening. The truth is out and it is their shame to bear. Have you confided in anyone else? Your family or a friend? It's important to have the support of someone whom you can trust. Right now the way you feel is very...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. You need help and so does your husband. Alcoholism is a disease and when not addressed sooner than later can quickly spiral out of control and lead to place where your very safety is under threat. Regardless of how newly married you are, it's is never reason enough to compromise with self- respect and safety. This is a serious situation which requires serious actions. This is not a behaviour one should ever have to tolerate alone or give it time. Firstly, ask yourself, how safe do you feel? Do you have someone to come to your aid when your husband's...

Hi there, Thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to state that there is an issue, especially in a marriage. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you and the pain you must be experiencing especially when your husband verbally abuses you. I am sure that when he uses cheap words, it must be very hurtful and must definitely affect your self-worth. It also sounds like you and your husband have not been connecting emotionally and physically for a very long time. With regards to him exploiting you for money, what does he tell you? Do you have a separate account so you are...

Hello, Thank you for finally asking for help. It must have become so unbearable that finally u have tried to find a solution. As I can see ur age is 53,which means this abuse is going on for many years. Your son has just learnt it from your wife, to whom u have allowed to abuse u physically for so many years. I am sure u have expressed ur pain to them many times. And u also must have thought of taking a step many times to put a stop to this. Physical abuse, whether to a human or animal is when the abuser has no respect for you. Here it also says in ur case that u have lost...

Thank you for writing in. Firstly it's commendable that you want to do something about this rather than being party to the situation by being a silent bystander. Where your friend is concerned what the need of the hour is for an intervention. This cycle of rage resulting in abuse needs to be broken. For that your friend needs to realise that actions have consequences and so far he hasn't had to deal with the consequences. Your friend's girlfriend needs to set some strong boundaries and her safety is paramount. What is she doing to defend herself? Perhaps you and your friends can get...

Hi, I know you love him so much, and you can't give up on him. And I know it's difficult to trust a person again, once you loose the trust on him. What do you think? what type of a person he is? Explore more on it, get to know more about him.The more you explore the better you get to know!

Hi, It feels good to notice your concern about your mother and willingness to look after her :) she is very lucky to have you. i can also understand that it must be painful to watch her go through trouble on daily basis and not being able to do anything about it. please help us understand what kind of mental trouble are you talking about by few examples, that will help us guide you better of how to deal with this situation for now make sure you take good care of yourself, if you get weak, you wont be able to help your mother with it, also express it to her that you are always there and...

Hello, Of what I had read, I once had a friend who had a similar problem. She built up the courage and first thing that she did was to go to her parents and spoke with her parents regarding this faulty relationship, later she went and told him that she wouldn't want to continue the relationship. I can see that you clearly still care for him, hence you wrote that you don't want him to die, let me tell you that if you are in this relationship it is clearly stressing you out and you need to get out of that relationship. Also I assure you that, such an abusive person won't end up his life...

Hi, I can actually feel the torment you are going through. You took a right step by writing to find some solace and answers to your woes. You have mentioned that you are staying away from him because of the nature of his work. You have also mentioned that you are working. I am a little confused then how you have to beg for allowance and how he shows his displeasure about you visiting and taking care of your parents. However from what I have understood, you want more attention, loving words and care from him. You want the excitement you had in the earlier years of your love and...