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I love my husband for 11 years, but attracted to a guy in office 10 years older.

Asked by Female, 29, Married

I am in a complicates state. I am married for an year and half and and in love with my husband for 11 years now. Suddenly I meet a guy in office who is 10 years older to me and feel an emotional bond towards him. Due to this I have also started ignoring my husband and giving this guy preference. This led to serious problem between me and my husband. I can't believe myself that if I am in love with my husband for 11 years now how can I fall in love with someone in a month.

Answer

Arunita Biswas

Clinical Psychologist

Answered over 4 years ago

Dear Sriya,
I understand that you are very troubled and upset with your current situation. I also understand that life is always more complicated than we can predict. With that said, I'm glad that you have chosen to seek help with this issue rather than let it deteriorate.
To better understand the position you're in, I'd want to ask you a few questions and get to know more about your predicament. How did your relationship with your husband start and what made you stay in the relationship for 11 years till you married him? Post marriage, how has the relationship changed or evolved? Can you describe the one month that you've been involved with the older person?
Let me assure you that we will work through this emotional confusion that you're currently experiencing. Please get back to me with the information that I've asked for and anything else that you think might help.
Warm regards
Arunita Biswas

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