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MIL's interference caused misunderstanding between me and my husband

Asked by Female, 29, Married

Hi,mai 30 saal ki hu ,meri shaadi pichle saal me huyi or tb se abhi tk mai apne husband k sath sirf 5 mahine hi rah paayi . unki mummy ki vajah se humare beech galatfahmiyaa shuru huyi jo abhi tk khtm nhi ho pa rhi h.ab vo mujhse kah rhe h ki unhe mere sath rhna hi nhi h, roj phone par humare jhagde note h, vo apni mummy se bahut pyar krte h,or unki mummy unse jo bhi kahti h ,jhooth bhi use sach maan lete h. Or mujhe jhootha bolte h. unki mummy khud mujhe preshaan krti or khti h ki mai unhe presaan kr rhi hu. Aisi or bhi bahut saari baatein mai apne riste ko jo abhi shuru bhi nhi hua sambhalna chahti hu. Please help me

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Answer

Komal

Counseling Psychologist

Answered over 4 years ago

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. Just to understand you better, are you comfortable with me responding to you in English? Do let me know if you have any difficulty understanding. You can continue to write your concerns in Hindi.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage because of the misunderstandings created by your mother in law. It must be hurting you for not having your husband trust you and support you. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far.
Also, could you tell me a little bit more about yourself and your husband as individuals? What do you both do? How was the marriage in the beginning? When did the problems start? Was it an arranged or a love marriage? What are the fight between the two of you about? You mentioned that you stayed with him only for 5 months. What caused you to move out? Have you tried talking to your husband about your feelings? What does he have to say? Answering these questions will enable me to help you better.

Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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