Yes, marriage counseling is a good option to consider, not as a last resort out of loss of hope, but as an option that will be able to show you both the right direction. From what you tell, it seems that your in-laws as well as your husband have a strong religious/ spiritual influence, belief and faith and questioning that is not something they will take well. You need not share their beliefs or faith with them but it looks like they do expect you to respect theirs. Such influences are strong and are not in place because of reason or logic but because of belief and faith. I understand...

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. Having your relationship controlled by your in-laws can be frustrating and is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. When we advise or when someone advises us, it usually is with the intention of helping out. However, too much of it conveys to the other that they do not believe enough in you to be able to manage the...

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. Having your relationship controlled by your in-laws can be frustrating and is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. Speak about your concerns with your husband as well if needed. It's important to have your spouse support you at such times. I understand your concerns and it would help for you to find an...

It seems like your spouse has taken the disagreements during your ceremony a little strongly. It is possible that she felt offended strongly and that's why she doesn't want you or your daughter maintain any relationship with your family. I think talking to your wife about what your family means to you might help, of course not to make it look like your marriage is less important, but that those relationships mean a lot to you as well. Despite the disagreements, the two of you ended up married and the ceremonies are long over. Your wife is still dwelling in the past and letting your...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. Just to understand you better, are you comfortable with me responding to you in English? Do let me know if you have any difficulty understanding. You can continue to write your concerns in Hindi. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage because of the misunderstandings created by your mother in law. It must be hurting you for not having your husband trust you and support you. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in...

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. I'm sure its very difficult to not be accepted by your husband's family and it does sound like this is very important to you. Is this impacting your marriage or your relationship in any way?

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and ask for help. I understand you are going through a difficult time in your marriage. However to understand better, could you tell more about yourself and your husband and the problems between the two of you? You seem to have a complicated relationship with your mother-in-law​. What misunderstandings is she creating? What lead to you leaving your house for the third time? Please message back to continue discussing. I am here to help. Regards

Thanks for reaching out to the askmile team with your concerns about your marriage, particularly your feeling that you are ignored and avoided by your husband. I do understand that such experiences create a lot of negative reactions in you. As it was a love marriage during courtship and post-marriage you found your husband very supportive and understanding which was your best experience. But the current experience in the marriage make you feel depressed and uncertain about the future of the relationship. You have given 100% to this marriage but do not feel the same level of reciprocation...

Dear writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand your frustration regarding you in-laws visits. I wouldn't call it an overreaction specially since I understand it's coming from a place of wanting a sanctuary for your self in your own house. The trouble being, it's also a sanctuary for your in-laws. You are entitled in wanting some privacy and space and the freedom to make your own plans. Perhaps it's easier for your husband to handle his parents visits, simply because he has grown up with it and is therefore more at home with them. Now in a situation like this, even using diplomacy...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I am sorry to hear about your mother's passing. With the arranged marriage process I instead it must be a confusing and hurtful time as well. I take it that this man and you are both interested in each other. His grandfather is causing a delay in moving things ahead. To not know the reason must be frustrating. It's important in situations like this to take a firm stand. Either this guy takes a stand and takes a decision, or you have to take a decision. Ask yourself whether you can wait for him if it seems worth it? Do you trust him? Giving yourself...

Dear Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage to take this step. This is a safe space to write about your problems. Your privacy and confidentiality will be maintained. I understand you are going through a very difficult time and being subjected to abuse. If comfortable could you please tell me more about your situation so that I help you accordingly. Could also tell me more about yourself and your husband as individuals? Please message back to continue discussing. I am here for you. Regards

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. I understand your frustration. From what I gather the source of all the contention might have to do with the EMIs you and your wife are paying. But before I get to that can you tell more about these 'wrong doings' at home. What kind of situation leads to an argument? It's possible that your parents' way of settling an argument is by saying you are challenging their authority and your paying EMIs doesn't make them answerable to you. In some households it is considered that the person who handles financial responsibilities becomes the head of the...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. Congratulations on your pregnancy, although I understand it has been a stressful time for you. The difficult relationship between you and your in-laws is affecting your marriage and that is upsetting you. You have been living separately for 4 months and the few visits and calls are peppered with fights which spoils the time you get with your husband. Now if it weren't for the problem involving your in-laws how was your marriage doing? Either this in-law issue is an isolated problem or it has gone ahead and created other problems between the two of you....

Dear Writer, I appreciate your writing in. It must be difficult and at the very least painful for you to find yourself in this situation. Although you have said that your in laws are the problem, lets also look at the relationship between you and your husband. The recent altercations between the two of you has led him to hurt you physically and it clearly upsets you. You don't accept that your husband should be slapping you at all, no matter how angry he feels. I second you there. Slapping is physical abuse. No matter how provoked one feels, resorting to physical abuse/ violence is wrong...