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Should I go back to my abusive husband?

Asked by Female, 33, Married

Hi im 33 year old married women with one 3 year old son . I have been married since 7 years nw , i seperated from my husand from past one year due to domestic abuse .. i tolerated all for 6 year hoping for time to change but all went in vein . Now my parents doesn't want me to go back to him coz they r scared for my life , he did lot to get me back but me and my parents are scared to continue with him . He also used to hit my son .. should i go ahead with divorce or should i go back im confused and my son misses him .. which is why im concerned

Answer

Chandni Gandhi

Counselling Psychologist

Answered almost 5 years ago

Hi,

i can feel all the pain that you have gone through over period of 6 years, specially looking at your son being beaten as well, its brave of you to have moved out of the abusive relationship, now at a point where you are considering moving back with him or divorce, it would be wise to move back if you are completely healed of trauma, fear, pain that came along as part of being with him and also if you trust him again for change he is showing you ,not because your son misses him.

chances are that he has changed for good, but un-till you feel safe around him, think of how your relationship with him look like? children often do not understand these things, and decision taken based on what your child wants at this point is not healthy one, rather decide based on what is good for your child and you as well

Hope this helps,

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