It's quite a painful discovery, watching your husband indulge himself on dating sites and yet have the courage to sort this out and find ways to bridge gaps and distances between you. This is a very commendable stance to take. It seems like there is a lack of conversation/ communication between the two of you. It's important to understand why he's doing what he's doing.If he needs something specific in a relationship that he's not getting then, maybe talking to him about this, to find out what it is that he is not getting in the relationship from you will help you understand how to...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing to us. I must have taken a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. I understand you feel guilty about masturbation and that you are addicted to porn. At your age your sexual drive will be at an all time high. Unless you are sexually active or have a partner it's easy to get sexually frustrated. Masturbation is an outlet to sexual frustration. There isn't anything called to much masturbation neither is it wrong. In fact apart from reducing sexual frustration and can help you focus more on other activities and in some cases it is known to reduce...

Hi, I read on what you have written and must say quite a task that you have accomplished on opening about your issues. For some reason these feelings can crawl into any life at any given point of time and all we have to do is acknowledge it and get past it. During these difficult times, we need is to get to the things that are to be done. I use a very simple series of things to be done and they are as follows: 1) I focus on few things at a time: By this I'm intending to mean is that we often as complex creatures tend to think that we can do a lot of things at a time, but we don't have to...

Hi! Thank you so much for trusting and writing to us. I see that you have mentioned that you lose interest in reading, and are almost addicted to your smartphone. I can imagine what you must feel while you think that you have procrastinated reading, which you have to do for your studies too. First of all I must appreciate you for the fact that you have realized the smartphone coming in your way to read more. So one of the areas that we have work on is to gradually reduce the usage of it. Also, the fact that there is a strong desire in you to work towards your studies and career is...

Hi,If you can share whats is that habit that bother's you, we will be able to help you better however for now you can try these things which applies to breaking any habitBy coming here and writing you have taken 1st step and understanding that you require to come out of that habit, what we need is plan for the same1) Write down all your reasons of why you need to do come out of that habit,  for some it is family members, for some health conditions, for some saving money, etc whatever it is just make a list of reasons for why you would want to do that2) Figure out all your triggers, everyone...

I strongly believe that  we suffer because we are unaware of who we are, so first step would be to become more aware of it, answer to following questions will serve as great tool to overcome your addiction,1) when do you watch porn? what is your mood like just before you start watching it?2) are there any specific triggers after which you feel like watching porn?3) what time do you watch porn? and where do you watch porn?4) what are your reasons to watch porn?AVOID TRIGGERS,Once you figure what all events, people, emotions leads you to watching porn, try to avoid all of theseDo understand...

Hi, You coming here is the first step taken towards quitting smoking and shows the fact that you understand that it is required. what we need is plan for the same 1) Write down all your reasons of why you need to do quit smoking, for some it is family members, for some health conditions, for some saving money, etc whatever it is just make a list of reasons for why you would want to do that 2) Figure out all your triggers, everyone has triggers which somehow increases craving to smoke, like having alcohol, feeling bored or stressed, looking at someone else smoke, some particular time in...

I strongly believe that we suffer because we are unaware of who we are, so first step would be to become more aware of it, answer to following questions will serve as great tool to overcome your addiction, 1) when do you watch porn? what is your mood like just before you start watching it? 2) are there any specific triggers after which you feel like watching porn? 3) what time do you watch porn? and where do you watch porn? 4) what are your reasons to watch porn? AVOID TRIGGERS,Once you figure what all events, people, emotions leads you to watching porn, try to avoid all of these Do...

Hi, It is great to see make the effort to try and quit smoking. There are many ways to quit smoking, you need to find the best way that works for you and stick to that. The two main things to remember is that (a) It takes time (b) even if you fail with one plan, don't give up and stay at it, try a new plan. Here a few ways you can get started. Three lists - First make a list of why you enjoy smoking, what is it about smoking that you like. The second list you make is the things that you dislike about smoking and why you want to quit. The third list that you make is going to be about reasons...

Hi, there if you are looking for tests, i take it as you have serious doubts of your boyfriend being addicted to substance, and its impacting his and your life in many ways, here its important to understand that more then just knowing what is he addicted to, some intervention is also given to him so that he can come out of his addiction. i would suggest you take him to nearest rehab and consult them for tests as well as treatment. if you can leave your location in personal message, we can help you find nearest rehab and doctors who can help you out