Any relationship requires the effort and consent of two people. Although you and your wife agreed mutually to marry, there are a lot of factors that go into the building of intimacy and love between a couple. Your wife seemed disinterested in sex from the beginning of your marriage. There could be various reasons for this- often women who are raised in strongly conservative families are taught to shun sex and their sexuality for a long time or till when they're married. Some women even after marriage have troubling embracing the idea of pleasure for themselves because they're told it's most...

I sense your pain and hurt in not having your husband understand you and it sounds like you do not feel he is bothered about you unless it does not bother him. You seem to find it difficult to have a meaningful relationship with him. You long for his commitment to you and to this relationship but his surface level efforts leave you feeling disappointed and helpless. One marries in the hope of building a future 'together' and it seems though as if your husband either isn't aware of your needs and expectations of this marriage or that he is not entirely committed to fulfilling his part in...

Living with a spouse who does not care for your needs in the marriage is extremely difficult and not preferable. To top it, he expects you to take responsibility of the kids while he can choose to not contribute. This seems really unfair on you. What could be done in this situation is that you can address few thing about the issue at hand: What would you like to have from this relationship for you to be emotionally and physically happy in the marriage? What would it take for your husband to cater to that? What would it take for you to cater to that? What is causing for you...

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the basic trust, respect, communication and intimacy not in place for a strong foundation, anything that is built upon it will turn out to be shaky. This is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. For starters, what you could try is to explore the reasons behind these issues. Some of the common reasons why a...

It seems like your wife is trying to communicate something to you but the message has not been received either because her communication isn't clear enough or you haven't paid attention to the right things. It seems like she is quite upset and angry for some reason.It is important to know what has upset your wife so deeply that she has cut off from you completely. You can try to talk to her privately or seek the help of a trusted family member or friend to initiate this. It may require a few attempts of you to be able to get her to open up , as she seems quite distraught. It will...

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the marriage beginning to feel suffocating leaving you both unhappy is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. It would help for you and your spouse to go for marital therapy. What it would do is provide you both a safe space to be heard patiently without any judgement, address the issues causing suffocation and...

Thank you for writing in to us. Recognising when you need help and reaching out for the same is the first courageous step to be able to take towards a better self. One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the basic emotional needs not met and enduring a feeling of loneliness even with your partner is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. Before...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. This is your second marriage and you are having to face issues with in laws and matters regarding your children. There is a lot of pressure of expectations from you and you seem to feel pressurised and trapped under these burdens. You are confused whether to continue in the relationship or to separate. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in given that you have already gone through a divorce before and managed to give...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in considering you do not seem to be happy in it. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. Also, in order to be able to assist you better, could you tell me in detail a little bit about yourself and your husband as individuals and about your marriage? Was it an arranged or love? Since when have you both been married? How was it in the...

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your family isn't good at the present time. When you say the issue is resolved, could you give me more information on how and what you did to resolve it?

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. I understand you are very troubled over the relationship you are in. You said it has drained you physically, emotionally, socially and financially. It has left you heartbroken because of his deception and lies. Could you tell me more about yourself as an​ individual and what led to you being in a relationship with a man who didn't commit to you, for so many years? Please message back to continue discussing. I am here to help. Regards.

Dear Writer , thank you for writing to us. I understand you feel frustrated and hurt at the lack of expression on your husband's part. It bothers you that despite being in a long distance marriage he puts in no efforts to bond with you. I understand that you want to feel needed and missed. Its natural to want some romance and feel loved in your relationship because it helps build intimacy. Intimacy be it emotional or physical is extremely important in a marriage. Perhaps being expressive doesn't come naturally to your husband and maybe he feels uncomfortable or awkward to try. Maybe he...