Marrying someone for the happiness of one's parents is not one of the very good reasons to get married to someone. You are aware that she has left the love of her life and that is something for you to think about whether you can live with that and be willing to put in efforts to discover if she will ever love you back or not. There is no guarantee ever whether a person will forever be honest and loving towards you or not, it is about whether you are willing to risk to find it out for yourself.

Hello Writer, Thank you for contacting the askmile team with your concerns about your relationship with your parents. We do discuss matters relating to family experience and you are in the right place for seeking help. You are worried about the quality of interactions between you and your parents. They are very loving and affectionate people. However, you are reacting to their controlling behavior. I do agree when parents criticize children all the time what you can expect is reaction behaviors. I do understand how you are deeply disturbed with this issue. However, you are seeking a...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand you are looking for a life partner who meets your criterias. Finding a perfect partner who meets all your requirements​ is based on luck and time. You have to think about what your expectations from a marriage are. Think about things like compatibility and shared interests, personal and professional goals etc. Also think about what are the things you can compromise with. Just like how you have your criterias the opposite side will have their own set of criterias. A marriage is also a relationship. You need to be sure of what you want...

I understand you are very upset about your broken friendship and your guilt in having hurt her. If comfortable could you tell me what led to this situation? Also can you tell me more about yourself as an individual? It will help me understand you better and guide you accordingly. Please message back to continue discussing. Regards

Dear Writer, Thank you for contacting the askmile team with your interest and love for your maternal cousin whom you want to marry. It is very painful if someone comes with the view that you cannot marry you love. It would break both of your hearts. There are many different types of customs and practices regarding the various groups and sub-groups in this country. In some quarters cross cousin marriages are not permitted while in some others it is encouraged. You have not seen any marriage in your family or community with maternal cousin. This makes you think it is not permitted. It is...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and take this step. With your problem what I see is that your boyfriend and you and are being subjected to emotional and verbal abuse. You both are adults and no one can technically dictate or control your future. Is your boyfriend financially independent? It's possible that years of emotional abuse has created this illusion of control. But in reality should she try to threaten you physically then you can file an FIR. It's important to believe that you and your boyfriend are not helpless and need not subject yourselves to...

Dear Shiv, thank you for writing in. It's always better to be informed and cautious. Recent studies indicate that first cousin marriages have a higher risk of passing genetic disorders to their offspring. It is recommended that before planning a child a Carrier Genetic Test is done to find out if both the parents are carriers of a defective gene. I would also strongly recommend that you verify these doubts and concerns from a Geneticist or a Genetic Specialist at the earliest. Hope this helps.Regards.

Dear User7188, Before we proceed, I would like to know if your single status is one of choice or circumstance. I would also want to know more about you, in order to take this forward. As I understand, being single isn't a crime or taboo. What matters most is, are you happy with your status or do you wish to change it? Please get back to me and we will take this forward. Warm regards. Arunita Biswas

Dear Writer, I appreciate your writing to us. I understand you had a fissure surgery recently and post-op care can be taxing. With fissure surgeries there's no falling back on excercises to aid your recovery either. It can become a huge demotivater to find your movements restricted while being in a lot of discomfort and pain. But do not be disheartened for while your recovery takes time and may even seem discouraging, it is still a recovery. Slowly but surely you are getting better. Although it may not feel like it, your age is also another factor that works in your favour. You already know...

Dear writer, thanks for writing in. It's good that you are aware of what your options are. Since you both are clearly not in favour of eloping are you then keen on marrying each other right away or in good time? Focus on the option that is available, that being confronting her parents. Regardless of their agreeing to this, the only way forward is to let them know. Again, before you even approach her parents you have to be sure that you and your girlfriend are on the same page and are just as committed to each other even when circumstances are tough. I am assuming your family is in know...

Dear writer, I appreciate your having written in. I understand that you are worried that you might get hurt and just now you are very unsure about the fate of your relationship. When you say that you think your friend is overthinking things or that you don't want her to feel obliged into being with you; you might be doing a little bit of overthinking yourself. You also said this might be your potential first relationship and although everyone's got to have a first at some point; i think that you might be letting your inexperience so to speak turn into an insecurity. Firstly you need to...

Hello, I would like to begin by giving you a warm hug. Thank you for writing to us and also giving an instance of what makes you feel the way you feel at the moment. I conclude that you are the middle one. You have an elder brother and a younger sister. I have interacted with many children who are in the middle order and most of them have this conclusion. As when we are children, our parents tell the middle born, he is elder, you must respect him, she is younger, you must take care of her. And the one in the middle feels she is the one who has to make all the sacrifices and is the...

Dear Writer, thank you writing in. Well it's certainly not easy playing the field but do not be disheartened. It's good that you know what you want out of a relationship and that you don't take it too lightly either. Yes you might open yourself up to judgments and comparisons but it is also upto you to filter out the unimportant and inconsequential. The more sure you are of yourself, the lesser these comparisons will affect you. When you say you need advice could you perhaps let me know how you are while socialising with women. Do you feel comfortable and confident? It might help if you...

Hey, Thank you for writing for sorting this out. You seem to be really very disturbed with the way things have shaped up in this relationship. Making friends and being social is a need of every individual. You did the same. Which was nice. Yes you did take it a little for granted by calling him names, but at your age, that is an accepted norm. I see on a daily basis my son and his friends calling names to each other. It is nice to see that kind of camaraderie. It is these kind of conversations which also build your inner strength. However it was unfortunate that the person you call...

Hi, I understand that you have confusion about whether to take relationship further or not and in any case how? in your case with a person who is showing affection towards you, it could be complicated to make this decision We would be able to help you with this if you can write back to us with more details about relationship and describe incidents so that we can help you think this through Do write back to us

Greetings for the day :) There are several ways to come to that diagnose, I am sure that, if you speak with someone regarding it then you can work around it. Do get in touch with me, we will see how to organize and plan for your future :) Thanks.

Depression is a hard battle but not impossible to beat. Everyone deals with depression differently. Just because your father still finds it difficult to cope with, does not mean you won't find a way either. Have hope and keep fighting against it. Doing yoga has a number of benefits. It would boost mood,reduce stress, reduce insomnia and help you to relax as well. However, it would not directly help you to motivate yourself to work towards your goal of pursuing your phd. That kind of motivation has to come from you. That being said, you should know that everyone has phases where they're...

Depression drains your energy, hope, and drive, making it difficult to do what you need to feel better. But while overcoming depression isnt quick or easy, its far from impossible. You cant just will yourself to snap out of it, but you do have more control than you realizeeven if your depression is severe and stubbornly persistent. The key is to start small and build from there. Feeling better takes time, but you can get there if you make positive choices for yourself each dayReach out and stay connected to supportive people , Do things that make you feel goodeven when you dont feel like it...

Greetings for the day! Work place can be super difficult initally for anyone and I can understand that you are also facing a lot of difficulties initially. Give it sometime everything will become alright, and things will settle in for you, until then let me tell one thing for sure that, it is not at all wrong to make friends in any gender. As long as you know the limits that you need to maintain, so that others don't receive any unwanted communication from you of any sort. If you want to discuss more about workplace problems, then don't at all worry and you can message me and we can...

Greetings, It is certainly advised to take contraceptive pill according to prescription and also if you referring to one of those 'I-Pills', those are different from the contraceptive pills. Get it checked by a professional. Thanks.